Compatibility of Love Between John and Abigail Adams

The relationship between John and Abigail Adams was nothing but a marriage of true love.  Before they got married, the two had a remarkable exchange of feelings for one another, and John, being of lower class than Abigail, loved her despite her family wealth.  For the first five years of their relationship, the two lovers’ compatibility grew stronger; creating a bond that formed the foundation of their marriage, a marriage that was bonded together by love.  The writing that is compiled in The Letters of John and Abigail Adams is not only correspondence between a man and his wife, but love letters between two devoted individuals committed to their marriage. John and Abigail did not only exemplify the love they shared – as a married couple should have – but the strength of a true friendship, shown by the address of “my dearest friend” and signature of “ever yours” in nearly every letter.

As a lawyer and politician, John Adams was kept from home for quite a long period during the Revolutionary War while Abigail remained domesticated and took care of their four growing children.  The distance was a challenge for John and his wife, especially when the letter writing was interrupted by business disruptions, as well family concerns.  In 1774, John was elected as a delegate to the First Continental Congress, from which he chose to resign in 1783.  Between this time period, he saw his wife and family irregularly.  In 1782 he wrote “My Dearest Friend – I have lived to see the close of the third year of our separation.  This is a melancholy anniversary to me, and many tender scenes arise in my mind upon the recollection” (Letter to John from Abigail, 13 November 1782).  To conclude the collection of letters, in John’s 18 February 1783 letter to Abigail, “I shall certainly return home in the spring.  With or without leave, resignation accepted or not, home I will come, so you have nothing to do but wait to receive your old friend.”

During the separation of John and his wife Abigail, disrupted by Johns career, the two remained true to their marriage.  Although they were unable to correspond as frequently as they would have hoped, they continued to write letters back and forth throughout their entire detachment, until John was to return home to his wife and children.  The continuation of letter writing between John and Abigail Adams exemplifies their devotion to their marriage and their deeply intellectual infatuation.

The Letters of John and Abigail Adams (Penguin).


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